A bouquet of Taboo
Lately, I have been doing some researches
about polyamorous relationships.
It amazed me
the huge amount of negative points of view that “monogamous” people have. While reading several articles about the subject, the same
questions kept popping at me. So here’s some of the answers, I could come up with.
- What about Jealousy & Insecurity? Possessiveness can be a major stumbling block, and often it prevents what could be a successful polyamorous relationship from forming. When people are viewed, even inadvertently, as possessions, they become a commodity, a valuable one at that. Just as most people are reluctant to let go of what little money that they have, people are also reluctant to "share" their beloved. After all, what if [their beloved] finds someone else who is more attractive/intelligent/well-liked/successful/etc... Than [themselves], and decides to abandon the relationship in favor of the new lover? These sorts of feelings act as inferiority complexes inside of polyamorous relationships and must be resolved, completely, before a polyamorous relationship can be truly successful.
- What about the society’s point of view? I found out that the social views on Polyamory vary by country and culture. For example, in a 2003 article in The Guardian by Helena Echlin, Clinical Psychologist Deborah Anapol, one of the founders of the Polyamory movement, argues that Great Britain "is about 15 years behind America in its acceptance" of Polyamory. But a computer systems manager in Leicester, UK, who practices Polyamory, disagrees, saying "British people are if anything more tolerant than in America, which is perhaps why British polys are less in need of support groups. We have a tradition of people minding their own business here. People might disapprove, but they won't try to mess up your life. In America, they might call social services."
In this day and age, we shouldn't be ashamed
of who we are and with whom(s). Thanks you for the triad couples who came forward
to my invitation and to those authors out there that write poly-romance.
