This article
is about my own guidelines
for playing with hot wax. Remember, it’s like fire, you play with it and you
might get burned. You DO NOT want the person you
are playing with to get burned and have a bad experience. This is an art based on safety and trust.
This is
considered one of the more sensual activities within BDSM. Before you start
anything, you will need to talk to your partner you will be pouring the wax
onto. Ask them if they have any “no go” zones where they don’t want the wax to
be poured. NEVER pour wax on the face.
The best rule
is to keep all the melted wax below your partner’s collar bone. Nipples might be off
limits too, the skin here is very thin and sensitive and can burn easily. Tape
or pasties over the nipples works well. The anal area and vagina are also
usually very sensitive, but check in with your partner to see what they want. Having
safe words is good.
Still scared
of hot wax? Afraid it will burn you or your partner? Well, that would be because
you have not done your homework! Carry on reading!
As I mentioned
earlier on, Wax Play can be one of the most sensual and erotic things you can
experiment and/or play with, if you know what you are doing. Below I gave you some
information about the type of candle to use in Wax Play. I know many of you already know much of this,
but guess what? Many of you do not!
You need to
take into account the hardness/softness of the candle, the amount it drips and
the heat it will be when it is melted. There is a common misconception that wax
play is torture. Truthfully, wax play need not even be painful if you’re
careful about your selections.
AVOID:
- · Beeswax, as it has a VERY high melting point
- · Expensive candles, as they tend to have additives or be made of material which cause them to have a higher melting point.
- · Waxes made from animal fat
- · Scented and coloured waxes. The addition of scents may raise the melting point 5-10 degrees F (1-3 degrees C), so avoid scented candles.
- · Candles with a metal wick, as the molten metal could drop onto your bottom. It doesn’t sound erotic. Also, any candles with glitter/sparkles can do the same thing.
- · Food colouring, if mixing your own wax. Colouring agents used in candles also hold in the temperature and are not designed for contact with human skin (unless they are, of course).
There is a simple
way to test out your candle if you don’t know what type of wax it is, do the
following test: cut a small chunk of wax off. Roll it and squeeze it in your
hands; if it becomes soft like putty, it’s a low temperature candle and should
be safe to use.
MELTING POINTS
OF WAX
- · Paraffin 120 – 130 F or 49-54 C
- · Low temp wax 120 – 125 F or 49-51 C
- · Soy wax 120-150 F
- · Standard jar candles 125 – 135F or 51-57 C
- · Standard pillar candles 135 – 140 F or 57-60 C
- · Palm wax: 135-140 F or 57-60 C
- · Beeswax: 144-147 F or 62-64 C
Soy and paraffin wax are both wonderful
to use as they melt quickly and have low melting points. Some people have
allergies to soy, however, to check to be sure your partner isn’t allergic
before you use this.
The melting
lowest point wax available is 125-135 degrees Fahrenheit (54-57 Celsius), and
this is the temperature that most paraffin candles hover around. Some bottoms
enjoy the higher temperatures, but these need to be worked up to and you should
never use a hotter candle on an inexperienced bottom.
When playing
with wax that is nearing 140 degrees, it starts feeling hot instead of warm.
It’s still safe, but you need to take great care to avoid burns. If the wax is
too hot it can burn very, very badly, and not in the good way.
Smaller
amounts of wax will cool significantly if dripped from a higher distance above
the body; larger amounts, like ladleful’s, won’t cool as much.
I hope, I answered
to some of your questions within this short article. Once again, PLEASE do your
homework.
